Be kind: yeah, right.

Lol I’m aware that this is a weird title but I decided on it when I heard someone say those words and went on to say such a cruel thing. Now, I know that I’m not the nightwatcher for kindness but it’s not too hard to tell that we can be oblivious to certain things and that a fraction of kindness is sometimes performative.

Also, I think it is a perfect time for me to say that I strongly believe that the worst type of aggression is done through trivialization. It’s a whole nother ball game when you outrightly dismiss or condemn, but to be interested enough to go about it by trivializing is the form of aggression that is so subtle that even the consumers don’t know what to make of it.

Now, if we deep it, we seem to be promoting wellness (read: kindness) every month in one way or the other — Mental Health Awareness Month, Autism Awareness Month, LGBT Pride Month, Black History Month and a ton of others.

This really speaks to sensitize, make aware and to be kind. Quite frankly, you don’t have to be part of the minority to acknowledge pain, targeted harrassment, assault, anger and these other emotions. You can accept and bask in your privilege (if you have that going for you) but from that same place of comfort, you can also look through documented experiences of others.

It is quite ridiculous (read in my voice: insanely ridiculous) for you to think that feminists are doing too much because you aren’t affected, only for you to go off the shores of indian village to the Western Lands and be “inconvenienced” because you are black and then, a lightbulb goes off in your head because you are now aware of minorities and the discomfort that accompany them.

Now I promise you that we are all crawling and learning and stretching and growing which surely takes time but I’m just tryna say to extend warmth, patience and understanding. Look at how you treat people whose beliefs don’t align with yours, look at the experiences you discard and question because they are not yours, look within your space and be alert to these things sweetie.

There are two ways to read this title; one is sarcastic, and the other is just in plain terms — be kind: yes, right. So here’s me cheering us all in the never ending journey to true kindness.